Our attachment relationships pack our suitcases. Secure attachment relationships give us a solid sense of our worthiness for connection, a clear idea of what secure relating looks and feels like, and an alliance with our bodies and emotions. Insecure attachment experiences leave our relational backpack without all the things we need to feel secure in ourselves and our adult relationships. If you don’t have a suitcase full of all the goodies you need to feel securely attached, I wrote you a book

Our kids need both nurture AND structure in order to feel secure with us and to develop and grow. When children live in attachment relationships that are high structure but low nurture it compromises their sense of worthiness and their process of authentic self love and core confidence. On the opposite side, when children live in attachment environments where there is high nurture but low structure (a.k.a. parent does not know how to hold limits and boundaries and instead and boundaries are dete